For all those wondering what to do to stay No Contact...
For all those wondering what to do when they are missing the illusion...
For all those feeling the emotions of longing, need, want...
For all those wanting that extra nudge toward a P free future....
Take a minute to say "Goodbye"
There is so much to process in the abuse we endured. So many areas of our lives that have been affected. The onslaught of emotions can be overwhelming. And in the midst of all the pain and hurt and confusion and doubt, there are the feelings that, as far as we were concerned, we were in a relationship. In those times, take a minute and say "Goodbye" to all that was. The more one says "Goodbye" the more one's emotions will get on board with the mind's knowledge that this is the BEST course of action.
I still do this at times. Memories are still there and different things can activate those memories. Most of the time the memory comes and goes without interrupting me--like traffic along a highway. In the few times that the memory gives me pause, gets a hold of my attention--like when you hear the screech of tires and a loud crash of metal and you turn to take a quick look at what just happened--an emotion will rise and I'll take a minute to say "Goodbye." "Goodbye pain. Goodbye hurt. Goodbye lies. Goodbye doubt. Goodbye suffering." "Goodbye."
A wonderful thing happens by the time that minute is up. I smile. In that minute my resolve is renewed. I feel strength in the knowledge I have come to know and believe.
So take a minute when you feel you need to and say, "Goodbye."