Some seem to believe that women who have been devastated from romantic involvement with psychopaths are back lashing against good men, and thereby probably missing out on good relationships by being hypersensitive and overly careful.
I have a different take on this. I don't want to exclude the men who suffer from same sex or opposite sex psychopaths, so I include them as well. Rather than it being a compensatory mechanism, being very careful about potential future romantic (and i would include non-romantic) relationships is a necessary evolution toward critical thinking, a waking up from being brainwashed - often from our family of origin and certainly from our culture. This "waking up" is often very uncomfortable, and it takes a lot more energy and effort to think and evaluate everything to do with bringing others closer into out lives, but is also absolutely necessary for personal development on all levels.
Rather than it being a compensatory mechanism, it's okay to be very careful about potential future romantic (and i would include non-romantic) relationships.
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