The Post-Breakup Superiority Complex

From the book: http://book.psychopathfree.com

After the breakup and triangulation, psychopaths feel an immense amount of superiority. This is when they’re at their best—glowing with energy as they watch you fall from grace. It’s what they live for. They put their newest target on display because they want you to know about him/her. They’re waiting for your reaction. And if you don’t react, they will invent a reason to talk to you, making sure their new profile picture is displayed front and center. Often times, psychopaths will use pointless requests as an excuse to get your attention. For example, returning an article of clothing or a DVD. Something that any normal person would just forget about.

Once they have your attention, they will adopt a calm, patronizing demeanor. Talking down to you as if they’re somehow the relationship guru because they’re happy and you’re single. The whole conversation will take on a very arrogant, “I’m-in-charge” sort of attitude. After the breakup, they’re obsessed with being the calm and superior person. The winner.

They will minimize everything that happened, warning you not to create any drama. Instead of apologizing for their abusive behavior and now-obvious cheating, they make sweeping statements explaining that breakups are just difficult. They depersonalize the experience and speak down to you as if they pity you. They use this pseudo-pleasantry to come across as the bigger person. They will wish you all the best, playing it off casually. Ending things on their terms. They will make it seem as if this was just an everyday breakup.

If you don’t allow them the post-breakup superiority routine, they will become extremely un-pleasant. They do not want to talk about their infidelity or lies. They want you to idolize them in your memory. And remember how they gave you the silent treatment for days at the end of your relationship? Well, they still expect prompt responses from you—otherwise you’re bitter and jealous.

If you feel like punching a wall by this point, you’re in good company.

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